from the movie Avatar

What a way to start out the New Year — or this new decade — by seeing Avatar.

I saw it on New Year’s Eve. It completely opened up my world. It was like I popped by head outside the Cosmic Egg (a la Joseph Chilton Pearce) into a rich, vibrant, dynamic world that was utterly captivating and hard to leave.

This morning still entralled in the movie world I realized how important a vibrant imagination is in healing a trauma history.

As long as we’re caught in the painful world of our trauma we continue to re-enact and relive that pain. What if we create an imaginal alternative that becomes as real and life like? When we do that, as my attachment teacher Daniel Brown, PhD ( suggests, we create new internal representations, a new world, in which to live. We shift our perception, shift our experience and free ourselves up.

This is what Jake Sully did when he entered his Avatar’s world. It was many times more vibrant, multiple times more powerfully compelling. It captures with is intense devotion to detail and rich, luminous content.

Now what if we did the same with our inner world? What if we created with such compelling detail the world in which we want, or wanted, to live? Where we are loved – in exactly the way we want to be loved. Where someone is exquisitely attuned to us so when we are hurt they know instantly what we need.

This repairs the fundamental structures of attachment and allows us to deal with the everyday, real life complications of interaction with greater ease and fluidity.

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I decided to give wordpress a try after hearing so much about it.  I have a blog on that is through blogger ( but it doesn’t have all the component pieces I wanted.  So here I am fresh in a new decade trying it out. 

I’m also wanting to create a space to offer more content on healing trauma and attachment.  Some of you who have been reading my blog or getting my ezine know how committed I am to supporting people who suffering to find a way through.  

Sort of like the Hansel and Gretel fairy tale.   I’m imagining we all know the story of these two kids who are on their way to their grandmothers.  To get there they have to go through this dark forest which scares them.  They decide to leave breadcrumbs on the path so if they get lost they can find their way back again. 

When you’re in a healing process it can be very scary and hugely overwhelming at times.  We forget there’s a way through.  We get lost many times.  Feeling stuck is the leitmotiv. 

As hard as it is during those times there is a way through to a sense of completeness, groundedness, wholeness, integration.  It’s important to be surrounded by that healing reality as much, if not more, as you are feeling lost in the trauma reality. 

Communicating that and giving space for a healing community to flourish is what this blog is all about.

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